How to Handle Life's Surprises and Struggles as a Godly Wife

By LeShon Archer

Marriage is a wonderful institution, created by and a gift from God. With its many joys and blessings, marriage also has its share of struggles, strain, and unwanted surprises. For the Christian wife in particular, what do you do when the unexpected occurs within your marriage? Betrayal, infidelity, sickness, addiction, infertility, financial pressures, lack of communication; these are among the many unpleasant, undesirable, and unwelcome “surprises” many wives face. And we’re struggling.

Personally, the unexpected occurred in my marriage in the summer of 2017, when a piece of mail arrived at my home-ultimately revealing my husband’s financial infidelity. I was livid and felt betrayed. Through the grace, strength, and power of God, our marriage journey continues. I share my story to give hope and encouragement to wives who feel completely blindsided by and are struggling with circumstances in their marriage. There’s hope and help. Following are a few practical recommendations:

  1. Pray (Philippians 4:6-7). Pray for yourself. Pray for (not about) your spouse. Pray for God’s direction, intervention, and revelation. Ask God to provide a trusted mentor or friend to pray with and for you.
  2. Meditate on and Memorize Scripture (Psalm 119:11) God is the Promise Keeper. Seek Scriptures that affirm His promises, His power, and His presence. Memorize and post Scripture somewhere you will see it often. 
  3. Choose to forgive (Matthew 6:14-15; Colossians 3:13).
  4. Seek and Utilize Christian Tools & Resources. Read books pertinent to your situation, as well as devotionals and newsletters. Listen to podcasts and sermons online. Attend a conference. Seek Christian counseling. Choose to saturate your mind and heart with godly messaging.

While our circumstances may differ, our emotions likely overlap. My prayer is that the recommendations above provide you strength, as they did me. Put them into practice and activate your faith. No matter the surprise or struggle, God can give you the fortitude and grace to handle it. Be encouraged woman of God. Your Heavenly Father is for and with you.

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